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Maintaining Your Mental Health

Maintaining Your Mental Health

Being happy in life starts with good mental health. If we don’t have that, we won’t be happy. It is easy to get caught up in placing our attention on things that we want in life, rather than being content and grateful for what we already have. We think that once I get this or that I will be happy. And you might be, for a while. Until the mind feels that it needs something else in order to be happy. That is a cycle that never ends.

Good mental health means having peace of mind. It is normal and natural to feel stress, anxious, or down at times. But with good mental health we are able to recognize why we are feeling that way and promptly make the changes to feel better again. You return to a place of being comfortable within yourself and having inner peace regardless of what might be going on around you.

 

How does a person become mentally healthy?

Mental health is similar to physical health in that we need to do something to have it. Being physically fit does not come from doing nothing. It requires doing something every day to build and maintain it. Mental health is the same. It doesn’t happen by itself; we need to do something to get it and keep it.

Many people will put the effort and commitment into getting in shape, mentally or physically, but don’t maintain it. Somehow, they think that now that they have it they will always have it. We know that in order to keep it we need to continue to make it part of our daily lives. Once we make this commitment it no longer feels life effort. It’s a daily habit just as brushing our teeth or taking a shower is. We grow to look forward to it because of how good we feel when we do it.

 

Here are few things that will help build and maintain good mental health:

  • Start your morning off by sitting quietly. Notice the silence in the room. Let your mind be still, free from thought. Or sit outside and place your attention on nature. The trees, flowers, bushes, the breeze. Just notice them without thought.
  • Go online or get a book of Daily Affirmations. Take a few minutes to really take in what that positive daily message is and focus on that throughout the day. This is especially helpful when negative thoughts try to pull you along into thinking about them.
  • Be aware of what you are putting into your body. Sugar, processed foods, and fast foods have a big impact on our mental and physical health. You will notice and feel the difference as you begin to eat healthier.
  • Nature is mentally and emotionally healing. Spend as much time as you can outside on a daily basis.
  • Exercise has a large impact on our mental health. Make strength training, cardiovascular exercise, and stretching part of your daily life.
  • Go to therapy. Therapy can identify whatever it is that is limiting you from enjoying your life and having inner peace. If you have been in therapy previously, you may just need two or three sessions to get you back on track.

Take the steps to build and maintain good mental health. Start today! You have the discipline and self-motivation to do it. Do it every day until it becomes a natural part of your life. You will soon find yourself looking forward to it because of how good it makes you feel. You deserve it!

Posted by David Schlagter, LCSW in Individual Therapy
Building Mindfulness into Your Daily Routine to Reduce Anxiety

Building Mindfulness into Your Daily Routine to Reduce Anxiety

So many people experience anxiety. There’s so much going on in today’s world – from hectic schedules, to social media and news, to the pandemic… it’s no wonder people feel overwhelmed. Mindfulness can be an incredibly powerful tool to help you manage your anxiety and feel better.

 

What Causes Anxiety?

Feeling anxious happens when you let thoughts take over. These thoughts are usually in some form of fearing something or wanting something. We can use thought to plan, make decisions, and take action, but anxiety happens when we don’t let go of worrisome thoughts. Anxiety comes from our thoughts – the way we are perceiving and processing what’s going on outside of us. Anxiety is not what is happening externally, whether it’s a relationship, the news, or your job. It is the way we think about those things. When we feel anxious, it’s because we don’t let go of troubling thoughts.

 

What is Mindfulness?

It’s a common misbelief to think that you can’t control your thoughts. But you can. Once we become aware of our thoughts, we can choose mindfulness. Mindfulness is the practice of staying away from thought and being fully aware. It’s pure observation. It is a conscious awareness of everything outside and inside of you, without having thoughts about it. Mindfulness is shifting your attention from constant thinking and worrying to your five senses. Gently place your attention on what you see, hear, taste, smell, and feel without thought. You don’t need thought to become aware of what you are sensing. Just notice it without thought.

 

How Mindfulness Reduces Anxiety

When thoughts go unchecked, it causes pain. We don’t have to think 100% of the time. When we need to think, we can actively make the decision to think and not let our thoughts control us. This ability to put thoughts aside and be in a state of awareness reduces anxiety, since we now know that anxiety is caused by intrusive thoughts that lead to emotional pain. Mindfulness allows you to be aware of your thoughts without getting pulled in by them.

Practice mindfulness before you are anxious. It’s easier to practice mindfulness when you’re not in an anxious state, and then when you are feeling anxious, you are prepared and have practiced so it’s easy to reduce your anxiety.

 

4 Easy Ways to Incorporate Mindfulness Into Your Everyday Routine

Tap into your 5 senses: what do you see, hear, taste, smell, and feel? When we place our attention completely on the senses and NOT on thinking, it keeps us balanced, centered, and reduces anxiety. Remember, thought is not a sense. Put aside your thoughts and be in a state of awareness. Try not to think, “I can feel this,” “This tastes like this,” “I see that.” That is still thinking. If you become aware that you are thinking, you have the choice to keep thinking, which can lead to intrusive thoughts that cause anxiety, or to shift your awareness back to mindfulness of what you are observing. When we become aware you can choose to not think and be mindful instead. It’s powerful.

Easy ways to incorporate mindfulness into your day…even with a busy schedule!

  1. Take 2 or 3 conscious breaths whenever you become aware of mindfulness or thoughts that are creating some form of unhappiness. A conscious breath is not necessarily a deep breath, it’s awareness of the breath. Keep your attention fully on the breath as it enters the nostrils and as it exits through your mouth. Notice the pause at the end of exhalation breath. Doing this many times during the day will help to keep you centered and balanced
  2. Look around. Just look – notice what you’re really looking at and just listen. Look out the window – look at the tree. Or if there isn’t a window near you, look at something inside – a vase, plant, or bowl of fruit. Let your gaze shift slowly so you can fully pay attention to what you see. Don’t have a thought about it – just be aware and observe.
  3. Take a moment to listen. What do you hear? Birds? The hum of an air conditioner? Silence? Listen to whatever you hear and keep your attention there. If you are thinking, “I hear this…” or “That sounds like that,” those are thoughts. Just be aware of what you are listening to without thinking about it.
  4. Eating. Before you begin to eat, take 2 or 3 conscious breaths. Then be fully aware of the taste, feel, and texture of the food. Be aware that your hand is picking up the fork, your arm is moving it to your mouth. We are so used to mindlessly eating while our brains are thinking non-stop about other things. Be aware of the whole process of eating. As soon as attention goes somewhere else, thought comes back in and we get dragged along with it. When you become aware that your thoughts took over, bring back your awareness to your food and what you are physically doing while you eat.

 

You Can Choose Inner Peace Over Anxiety

The more you practice mindfulness, the easier it is to let go of thoughts. You can have a quiet mind at will. When you choose to have a quiet mind you will no longer have anxiety. Be still. Realize your oneness with life and allow a whole new world to open up for you. When you suffer from anxiety, having a still mind is the best gift you can give yourself.

Posted by David Schlagter, LCSW in Anxiety